Negativity.
Friday, March 7, 2014 //
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Feeling rather depressed.
Which sets me into thinking..
Just realized the difference between "trying my best" and what I have achieved. It doesn't apply to just school assignments but as well as relationships. Nobody will care if you did your best, everyone looked at the results which you achieved. Pure hard cold fact. There's no point blaming because it's just simply, 因为你做的不够好.. // 你没有尽力去做到最好..
Socializing again is a big problem with me. I am never good with this anymore. Even at work, I don't even feel like talking to unknown staff to ease my boredom. Can't even communicate with people. So what's more with people around me. Laziness in talking became a habit. Once I am open to speaking what's on my mind and people either just shut me off or just say "You shouldn't do that". Then what the fuck should I do about all this?
Pleasing everyone. I had enough of this. Having a good heart in trying to please people, even to the unknowns and I got blamed. At times when it is beneficial to them, they said "Why can't you put yourself on someone's shoe?". When it's not, they said " Why do you care so much about how an unknown feels?". Then again, what the fuck should I do about this?
Someone enlighten me on this both.
However, I too got to change the two points below.
Attitude. People told me my attitude sucks big time. I don't deny. However "my attitude/actions based on your attitude/actions towards me" plays a part too.
Temper. It's naturally bad. It gotten better over the years and due to all negative emotions that overwhelms me it gotten quite bad again. I just can't deal with constant frustration and irritation.
I researched on the types of personalities. I've found the one that best describe me.
5. OBSERVER
An Observer tends to think the world demands too much, and gives too little. They focus on protecting themselves from intrusions or demands made on them by others.
They value privacy. They need signficant amounts of time alone. They will tend to be detached and will easily withdraw from others. Emotional states overwhelm an Observer — both their own feelings and those of other people. Hence they will isolate from their feelings and try to avoid the feelings of the people around them. They retreat to the domain of the mind and intellect. Others find this void of emotional connection a kind of rejection, a sign their feelings don’t matter.
The detached stance of an Observer can leave them feeling isolated. Lots of alone time may also bring with it the pain of feeling lonely. They may then long for connection. Yet at the same time, an Observer feels inadequate when it comes to connecting and dealing with real emotional interchange in relationships.
In the dance of “connection vs. space” they tend to need lots of space and can feel trapped. Others perceive them as unavailable, aloof, and try to get them to open up and talk about their feelings. It’s easy to mistake an Observer’s need for privacy as a form of rejection. Their retreat into the intellect can easily be seen as being superior.
Personal growth for an Observer is to become comfortable with feelings. Start sensing what you feel. And reveal this to others, in real time, as soon as you feel it. When you feel like withdrawing, move closer. Participate in life more, engage in conversation and discuss personal things about yourself.
Source: https://www.soulmateoracle.com/article/personality.html
Also I will take more effort to improve my attitude and behavior because that's what sucks big time.
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Before you tell someone what they did wrong or give a punishment, consider what the person has done right in the situation as well as wrong. Emphasize what was done right and how that behavior is appreciated. Remember it is often said that what gets attention is what gets repeated. If you focus on negative behavior, you will either get more negative attitudes or get work that is only "good enough" to keep the individual out of trouble in the future. Try to focus on positives first as this will encourage working to get better.
Before you tell someone what they did wrong or give a punishment, consider what the person has done right in the situation as well as wrong. Emphasize what was done right and how that behavior is appreciated. Remember it is often said that what gets attention is what gets repeated. If you focus on negative behavior, you will either get more negative attitudes or get work that is only "good enough" to keep the individual out of trouble in the future. Try to focus on positives first as this will encourage working to get better.
If a problem occurs, without blaming the person describe the mistake or problem as clearly as possible and as soon as possible after it occurred. Be sure you indicate how the bad behavior or incomplete project has a negative impact on others. Specifically Indicate whether this impact is on an individual, the family, friends, co-workers, or the business.
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If you gave the original instructions for the task that resulting in a mistake or problem, you may want to take the blame for not making the project clear to the individual. Ask for their help in improving the way you provide instructions to them in the future. Then be sure to clearly state how the task needs to be re-done or accomplished in the future. Ask questions to make sure the task or the process is understood. This creates an open line of communication between you and the individual that helps to build a mutual rapport.
Always note that you trust the individual and have confidence in their ability. This will help them to develop a trusting relationship with your and others. When assigning new tasks or projects, look for items that match the interest or skills or the person. This lets them know you are interested in learning what they like. Be sure to continue showing confidence in the individual's ability to succeed.
As their performance improves, you need to consistently reinforce the changed behavior in a positive way. Let the person know you notice their efforts and appreciate the results. Encourage the individual to figure out how to do their work in the best way on their own and to share their ideas with you, the family, or their work team.
Read more: http://www.ehow.com/how_4892314_positive-reinforcement-improve-attitude-behavior.html#ixzz2vCz38w4g
Horoscope says a little of everything.
Understanding me.
Pisces Deep Inside:
Pisces have an intuitive and psychic ability more then any other zodiac signs. They trust their gut feelings and if they do not, they quickly learn to because they realize that their hunches are usually correct. Pisces downfall is their sensitivity and their inability to reject another person. They do not like rejection and they try to treat others the way they want to be treated so they will rarely say no to a person for fear of hurting their feelings. They will help another person with their problems and like to do so because making others feel good in turn makes them feel good. Pisces is the zodiac sign of self-undoing. People born under this zodiac sign are not susceptible to bad luck and unfortunate events, they bring them on themselves by overindulging, laziness and a knack for picking poorly suited partners and friends. They want people in their life who stir their emotions because this helps them to practice emotional stability. The inner conflict of Pisces is extremes of temperament and conflicting emotions. They are trying to pinpoint themselves on the real world while their spiritual world can cloud their vision, they will try to escape or avoid a situation instead of confronting it. Pisces eternal struggle is to learn to use their powers and their imagination in a positive, productive way and vying for emotional stability by not giving away their emotions to everyone else, they need to help themselves.Pisces in a Nutshell:
Pisces is the sign of mysticism, mystery and the spiritual unknown. Pisces live in two worlds, the real world and the spiritual or mystical world where they interpret what they see into what they want. They do this to avoid all the realities of pain and suffering in the world. They have extremes of emotions and feel both good and bad intensively. Pisces have formidable intuitive ability. Most Pisces are somehow involved with occult or spiritualism. Pisces are very good at understanding people for they have the ability to delve into the psyche and see behind a person's motivations. Pisces are prone to drug addiction and indulging lifestyles because of their eternal search for themselves and their fear of confrontation and having to change a situation, also they justify drug use by allowing it to get closer with their 'spiritual selves'. Once they aware this is why they are doing it, it will be easier to kick the habit. Pisces are not the pushovers that they may seem, in fact they have strength of character and will stand up for what they believe in and and they can do hard work for something they believe in. They can be very lazy but only in matters that they do not care about. Pisces is the most sensitive of all zodiac signs.
To boyfriend:
想跟你到永遠
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